Hi Lola,

not sharp, just honest. I understand everything you say but I am really struggling to let go of the newcomer.

I guess the newness = easiness which doesn't exist with WAW. There is a chasm opening up between WAW and me now; I'm really not sure how to close the gap. I have not progressed the newcomer at all but obviously mentally there is something there.

When you say it is common, how do people put the newcomer out of their mind?

Thanks, Kiwi000

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Me; 38
W; 34
1 4yr old S
Married 4.5 yrs, together 9 yrs
Bomb; 15 June 2007
Holiday together Sept 2008; My Dad dies Nov 2008; reconcliation fails Nov 2008