That was a quick visit! He stayed 15 minutes and said he had to go. I asked in the future if he could let me know if/when he was coming because I had stuff to do. He said ok..
He was surprisingly nice. After yesterdays blowup makes you wonder why?
No, it doesn't make you wonder why...you will NEVER know why he does what he does or says what he says. If I were a betting woman, I'd bet HE never knows either...
who cares why? When I was at a camp for kids with cancer a long time ago, there was a 10 y/o girl with terminal cancer. She told me she "used to wonder why God would make me sick. I would ask God, 'Why me? Why? Why, why?' and then I just thought, 'I just am...so now I want to try and have fun with my summer." She was 10 y/o and figured this out. Yes she died- but her life was NOT spent wondering why...She lived her short life - well.
Your X h is bad news. He just is. You are GAL and that's ALL that matters now. That's all that interests...he's boring to tell you the truth.
As for OW, #1, 2, 76, etc...it's cool you forgave them if it means you let go. OTherwise it seems a tad odd and masochistic, gossipy, comparing notes and all that. Possibly even competitive on someone eles' end....Continuing the "r" with them is fruitless. They could be wonderful people someday-- but you have enough friends or will...you don't need to risk the comparing of notes...& spreading of poop...and you DO have kids so why risk that?
I would be outraged that your h feels entitled to comment to them about "sh#$ talking" him...as if he's entitlted to some type of protection for his wonderful behavior and reputation? What an ego. He's in NO POSITION to expect others to cover for him anymore.
Keep up the GAL and spine growing...you're doing well! J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
