Help w MLC / WAW... Jack 3 Beans?

[kjensen]

Hey B...
Finding these inconsistencies out is hard and it definitely hurts to feel lied to...but in order to do this(stand for you marriage, DB) you have got to NOT take it personally. And remember..it ISN"T personal.

Time helps. Detachment helps(but takes time!)

Don't let your imagination picture these scenarios because IMO the image is harder to get out of your head...so distract yourself, exercise, read, watch a movie, go out with friends, play cards with grandpa, read other LBS's posts(lots of good info here)..whatever you can do to get your mind elsewhere..it will really help!

Repeat daily..."its not about me" Your wife's actions are really, truly, not about you. There is no malice, no forethought..she is like a teenager in her head- remember what that was like...just action and emotion, no forethought, no thought of consequences..just whatever feels good..the world revolves around me....that's where your wife is... Its really not about you.