Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Also, spoke w/S12, he really brightens my day! He is so full of life, and energy. I love it when he says "I love you daddy", and "I miss you daddy". Just makes me melt!

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Oh, SD, I have a S12, too. They are the best!!! Still a boy, starting to act like a man! I love the surprised, out of nowhere, DEEP voice coming out, too! LoL

Just checking in...

My little man is 13. Only kid I know that can throw a 65mph fastball by day, and sleep with a blanket and a couple of stuffed bears that same night.

Oh, and he still calls me "Daddy" too.

Puppy

[mindfull]

LOL Puppy! They ARE the best!!!

[SoldierDad]

Just woke up from a great night of sleep.

Got a lot accomplished yesterday, and hopefully can do the same today.

I would like to get a concensus on if I should sign up for a dating site. I can't date anyone from where I am, but I think the interaction with women would be good for me-well, that's if anyone responds!! I think it would help me to begin to interact with others, and a by product would be that it would help my self-esteem. Thoughts?

[givingitmyall]

I don't know man. If your W learned about it in the D action, might bite you in the a$$. And, given your stage in this, you are pretty vulnerable to getting into a situation.

Just my $0.02 worth.

[SoldierDad]

GIMA,

Where I am right now prevents any contact, but I see what you are saying. One of my co-workers mentioned it, and he said it might do me good to just validate that I am still "attractive", and in the process, would help with the self-esteem issue.

Also, my L has already told me that once D papers are filed, the court really doesn't care about that kind of thing-Texas, imagine that!

As always thanks for the advice.

[givingitmyall]

GIMA,

Where I am right now prevents any contact, but I see what you are saying. One of my co-workers mentioned it, and he said it might do me good to just validate that I am still "attractive", and in the process, would help with the self-esteem issue.

Also, my L has already told me that once D papers are filed, the court really doesn't care about that kind of thing-Texas, imagine that!

As always thanks for the advice.

And I can certainly see those points. They ARE valid. One of the things that helped me was flirting with women each chance I get. Was never going to act on it, but it really helped my self esteem which needed a lot of help at the time.

If you can do the online thing without it getting you into a rendezvous, then probably no problem. But, can you do that?

[NoLongerHere]

I'd advise against dating too; my two cents. I've got a lot of reasons why (having done it), but that's all I'll say.

[Deep]

SD, it depends on what your intentions are.

We're all human, so I'm not knocking it, but getting validation of your worth / value / attractiveness outside your M and from someone else may not be the best path to go. Working on yourself, self-belief, self-esteem, self-worth may be the better path. That's part of detaching.

Having said that, heck, "going gucci" for a bit of harmless fun could be well ... fun! And very empowering. But there's a thin line you walk sometimes, and it's way too easy to fall off sometimes. Trust me on that one.

[SoldierDad]

Honestly,

I'm not ready to date. I can't anyway where I am. Was just thinking about what he said, and thought that it might help. The flirting thing would be great, however, where I am located, and my job and position, really prevent that, as I could get into MUCH trouble.