I think you should just keep doing what you are doing and not try to over analyze what you are going through. Maybe you are having a mini-MLC crazy . It sounds like things are not that bad and you are content with the status quo. As time goes by, you may gain more appreciation and acceptance of her or you may lose interest. Dont rush your feelings on this one.

I am speaking from experience as I tried to get deep feelings for my last GF, but there was little things that all added up and of course there was the big things that I should have noticed as red flags earlier. I had communicated to her several months prior about something that bothered me (too much criticism) and she promised to stop, but her criticism only returned. My time with her was 9 months and as you know, when I decided to end it, that was a most difficult thing for me to do as I wanted no part in breaking her heart. But that is what dating and learning about each other is about - it is hit and miss.

All's fair in love and war. There are no set rules like there are in golf and stogies.