Is this piecing?

[Freckle6]

Hugs. I'm sorry your MC today put you through the ringer.

I wish I had magic advice, but I don't think I was ever particularly good at DBing to begin with. I think the main thing is that you can't make him see it can be fixed. You can't do that anymore than he can make you see all the reasons he thinks it can't be fixed.

It's been a while since I read DR (and I don't have it anymore because I gave it to H many years ago against advice from here--told you I wasn't good at this!), but the only "right" way for you to react to him giving reasons why it can't be fixed is to validate. That doesn't mean you agree with him, but if you can't totally bite your tongue all together, validate that you heard him.

Now he's told you he feels like you're on a mission to get him back so you need to go a little dark, GAL and all that other stuff. No R talk outside of MC. If he brings anything up, validate and try to redirect the conversation as quickly as possible to something else.

Think back to the recent positives you've had like where he joined you and your S. Go backwards and see if there's a pattern in your attitude or thinking or behavior beforehand. There may be or there may not be, but you may find some clues that are helpful.

Get a good night's rest. I hope your car trouble is something easy and cheap to fix.