LGLG (previous WAW New life with OM)

[ppenton]

ppenton,

I haven't read your entire thread yet. Curious, are you still married? Are you still hoping for reconciliation? Do you have contact with wife and does she see the kids?

You seem to be doing well and a great example of a godly man.

Yes, we are still legally married, have been separated for about a year and we are using an agreement we came up with last January. This addresses our finances, who has the kids on which holidays, etc. we meet every 3 months to discuss/update this agreement. I believe I have the better deal since the kids live with me full time

Yes, I am standing for my marriage and am still open to build a new M, so I am willing to try to reconcile. I am using this time to learn more about myself, trust in God, grow and experience new things and meet and hopefully make even more friends.

W and I are in contact with each other by phone, text and email pertaining to the kids. I have not seen her since Christmas day. W has been more involved with the kids this school year (not a lot in my opinion) but better than the end of last year. W takes S13 to school and picks him up after and brings him home. She sees S16 in the morning as he gets ready and goes to school with a buddy. I usually leave for work before the kids wake up and W comes over. Also, W will take them to their appointments during the week if I'm at work. She doesn’t usually see them on the weekends, but does call/text them. She has dinner with them at our house on Wednesdays and I spend the evening at my brother and SIL’s house which has turned out to be a blessing as I get to see my 4 month old niece at least once a week

I feel so much at peace now, as I know I can lean on Jesus and my family/friends when I need support. The group I go to has been great and we even had a NYE party at one woman’s house which was a lot of fun. My interactions with the kids has improved even though I was close to them pre-bomb, the benefits since have been priceless and very beneficial for me and them. I know I would not trade the time I have had with them this past year for anything.

I’m not sure if all I do is the best at DBing, however, I know that the last 6+ months I have been doing very well and am happy! My W and I do get along which I believe has a lot to do with the way I approach and react to her. The process I have been going through to forgive her and the OM has benefited me and soften my heart which I need to practice everyday. I have done a lot of work and reached out to people and found tools to help me get through this valley.

Thanks, TulsaTime for checking in….