P17 - Man you look and sound like a different person than the one I remember back in October/November. Good to see. In terms of the OM, I am not entirely sure. When I did NC with her several months ago, I stopped looking and caring. When she reestablished contact, I did some checking on the social networking and he was still a friend. I said that I wouldn't deal with her while it was going on and she dropped him. Also, a couple of people I know indicated that they believed so based on some statements made by one of HER friends. On the flip side though, I know I made it very, very difficult. Because of a pet, a late night meeting is less of an option unless she goes home first, which is quite a drive. There's also the trouble that OM got into when I first went to his supervisors. Now, I did see some public comments on her page in Mid-November, but nothing since then, and his page has indicated that OM may have returned to his wife. When she added me, I advised her But I really don't know for sure. Not sure what'll happen if I keep up the status quo. I know she abided by the NC until I moved away, then asked to do so once I left. It is generally minor stuff, about our house and pet. I guess the thing is, I'm not sure I like this slow status quo, it is frustrating wondering whether or not things are getting better or not, plus opportunities for me to see other people are beginning to emerge (albeit very slowly).
Newmana I never expected to be "patient" either, but found myself doing so as well. I chalk that up to some of my mother's advice. I am not sure what's going on in her head. She claims that she hasn't been happy in years (common statement) and she's convinced others, namely her mother of that. Personally, I don't think she wants a divorce because if she did she could've gotten one. I wasn't going to stand in the way, and I gave her most everything when I left. I think she's scared about the work for reconciliation because she'd have to face up to what she did and accept responsibility for it. She is particularly scared of my friends and family (my friends did not react well) and anyone who knows about what she did.
