Thanks Trent. I knew I should not do it anyway, I just needed some confirmation to get rid of that little seed of doubt that said I should. I just didn't even realize that we were still saying I love you all the way into November...the first month she was gone I just thought it was going to be a short term thing. I probably should have tried harder that first month and I wish I would have found DB back then. There was a message on there that said "I know I'm not trying as hard as I should be. I will try harder." From her. Its crazy how in a little bit of time things can change so much. If only it could change back that quickly.