Hi dncrm- I think part of me knew my H would back out. There were signs, I just hoped that we would be able to work through things. I thought my H was getting to the end of this, but I now see that he still has some time on his journey...and I think you have helped me see that he has to do it alone. Even if he is the one initiating the contact, as long as I am in his life, he can continue to find excuses. If I am no longer in his life, he has to be completely accountable.
My H says that he loves me, wants me in his life but doesn't want to give up his solitude plus he doesn't want to be controlled by women. Funny since this man would have done ANYTHING for me and loved our life together once upon a time. I can't handle a life on his terms only anymore so I guess I need the distance for my own well being.
Do you think you would have eventually intitiated the divorce if your H had not? Did you actively seek out a new relationship? Did your H ever have an OW?
I also thought that we would be an exception to the rules of MLC. Even recently I thought because I knew he cared, I pushed...again thinking we are an exception. I guess I we are "the rule".
Your posts have helped me see things more clearly. Thanks.
Funny since this man would have done ANYTHING for me and loved our life together once upon a time. I can't handle a life on his terms only anymore so I guess I need the distance for my own well being. 
