Very good point. That is so true... the DB process, if we are really doing it, can be so full of personal growth! Doing 180's , setting boudaries, seeing ourselves with enough respect to decide what we will tolerate or not... it creates an inner strength that I don't ever want to lose. I have noticed that this is a vulnerability in piecing already. There could be a tendency to be so happy to have your S home that you start to slide back into the dependency, low self esteem, pleasing behaviors. In reality, our S are more likely to continue to be drawn back to us if we are strong, confident people on our own journey of personal growth, taking responsibility where we need to and calling them on it when they need to. I don't want to lose sight of that.
In reality, I wonder if we ever really do get "past" that much hurt, pain and betrayal. Probably not. But, I hope we get to the point where we can not have to deal with intensity of it so much, so often.
In my case, OW has no H, no kids to pray for. Just her and her dog. I suppose I could pray for her dog Although I have to admit I don't even want to do that...
Although I have to admit I don't even want to do that...
