I guess I am just being empathetic towards her - I feel bad that she is with someone who has these reservations, and she has no idea. Nine months isn't a lifetime, but it is almost a year - not sure what else you might learn about her (especially since most woman are pretty comfortable communicating about their emotional inner-life).
What good could possibly come of this? Her being free to be with someone who IS "into her."
I am probably being over-sensitive, given that my X's feelings changed and he chose not to share that with me - however, it seems... ok, these are not nice terms, but... not forthcoming? deceptive?
again, I'll leave it alone now, since you are the one living it. But maybe it is something to think about...
