Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

I still don't get it...it's worth discussing because it could happen again. Please do not take my arguing to mean I won't listen, but to mean that I want to understand better!

so let's say wh was crying about us. I ask him what's wrong. I INITIATE THE CONVERSATION by doing this. If I say nothing, then if he wants to talk, he will initiate the conversation.

oh and you may not know this but wh has cried:
1)telling me about OW
2)telling me he can't decide
3)telling me he will file for D
4)telling me he doesn't want to not see his S

5)when S was born. SO WH crying has never happened when he wanted to tell me good news about how much he loves me or how he has made a mistake etc.

therefore I associate wh crying with bad news about our R and I don't want to discuss our R.

now does this make sense?