Pls help--confused and fearful

[newmama]

DBD I am sorry that your WH has been acting so horribly. I hate to say it but it seems like you are better off filing than not... to protect yourself.

maybe this is being done to us, by whatever otherworldy power you believe in (even fate or karma), to make us better people. All those threads I have read are from better people at the end than when they started.

I think that nothing I did in this lifetime caused me, and certainly not my S,to deserve to be hurt so horribly. I didn't take this quote word for word; I took it to mean people have learned from this and become stronger in some way, not better.
Just my interpretation.

I do think that it's possible we are sacrificing ourselves so that the WSs can learn painful lessons. Don't mean to make it sound like we are perfect and they are crap, but I mean that the lesson is for the WS and we are suffering the consequences.