Whatever happens, know that you are doing what is right for you. And make sure that crisis plan is within life itself and not a made up situation. im sure you know what you are doing.
Just great job all over, and yes you certainly are doing very well, Your wife may D you, but she may not. One thing is for sure, without changing you, as you have done, there was no chance for the M at all.
My wife thought I would be perfectly fine with seeing the kids every other weekend, lol. That was one of the first wrenches I though in her crazy plan, I said I truly expect to get the children 50/50.
My former fogged out wife's plan, pre-bomb -Tell Burt, I do not love him anymore, give him all the reasons why. -He will be relieved (she asked if I was) because he probably wants the same thing. -We are good friends anyway, he would be easy to work with during the D. -Tell him to move in the guest room for now. -Tell kids that we both wanted this and they will be fine with it. Ill get that bood how to tell the children, it will be easy. -Have Burt move out of the house into apartment. -Agree on visitation, me full custody, Burt, visitation every other weekend. -I will get a job with a school so I can be home during the summers and after school. Im sure it will pay at least $50,000. -Sell the house and buy 2 smaller houses side by side so the children can go back and forth real easily. -Im sure with maintenance and child support he will pay me about $5,000 a month. -Still be friends with Dburt afterwards.
She did not get one of these right, and would correct her when she assumed anything of me. Went for that job and found out that she was not qualified for it, even after she went to the intro to Word and excel class. Found out it paid $9.00 an hour. I would not move out, I moved back into the bedroom, said I would fight for at least 50/50 custody. Guaranteed her that I would not be friends with her, I could not be friends with someone that broke up my family. Absolutely would not live where SHE wanted me to live. And under no circumstances would I lie for her when informing the kids. She couldn't believe that I would hurt the children like that, I told her the irony is killing me.
My point is everytime you throw a wrench in their plan, a small piece of fog may burn off, at least it did for my wife. This allows them to see the changes you are making, and God willing, have a change of heart.
