You know I've read a lot of sitches on here and walked through a lot of threads. I haven't yet come across one, from somebody who has been here for a while, that I don't think 'if only your spouse could see you now'.
Most WAS's are foolish. If you want to look at it another way maybe this is being done to us, by whatever otherworldy power you believe in (even fate or karma), to make us better people. All those threads I have read are from better people at the end than when they started.
WARNING...RANT: Ya know, I was doing really well today and through the weekend and then I came on the forum. Not blaming anyone... just going to show how NC (as much as possible in my sitch) and GAL works. I blew off WAH's comments because I was focusing on my first full marathon yesterday. I was on such a high for my accomplishment, so happy being with my kids seeing them proud of me and having fun with my friends... then today...discussing my pathetic sitch. Cr@ppy afternoon. Discussed it with my cousin across the pond, came here and just the reality sucks! This "growing" into a better person is hurting like he!!. I'm tired of this. Tired of the mean person WAH has turned into. I want to give up. I want this to be over with. I don't want to get a hardened heart over this person. I just feel like I'm going to be homeless and my kids will have to live with that man because I can't afford anything. He's really putting the screws to me and I know push has now come to shove. He's gonna get what he wants... for me to file. He wins.
BTW... no... haven't heard from my L yet.
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10