Yes I want your advise... No I havent set a boundary. I suck at it and am faced with a lot of fear as he is home again and couldnt bare him leaving again... And no this isnt the life I want. I want him in it but do not want to live this way.
I have often read on this forum people who say "I just want to go back to the way things used to be with us" and unfortunately that's just plain dumb
The way things "were" is what brought people to the place they're at now.
You want something different and you know what, you shouldn't be afraid to ask for it, in fact that is your boundary, "this isn't good enough for me, I want a better relationship, this will just bring us back to where we were and I'm not going through that $hit all over again!"
If you're afraid to say this to your husband, are you more willing to repeat typing up this thread for a 2nd time and telling us how you should have spoken up when you had a chance, how you should have set boundaries with how you allow people to talk to you and treat you, how settling for someone's crap behavior sucks because you're even more unhappy, how this type of relationship is depressing you?
