1. If at all possible, I want my marriage to work. The change for me or what I have learned from the past month is that instead of letting him walk on me, I am going to make him change or just not talk to him.
2. I don't have the money, $400 to my name, and now that H is not contacting me again I believe it is back to no child support, which means no seeing S. However with H not contacting me, he is not getting his mail, which will be important in the next few months since he will need to file taxes.
3. I don't want H to see S at all. For almost 10 months now, H has been just a play mate. He has not had any real contact although I am not denying him. He does not call or even ask to see S on his own. When I encouraged it, he refused to see him on his own. H is really messed up in a lot of things, porn and some other things that I don't feel is right to say here, that I don't want S to be around. When I talked to the L, she said no matter what because of where I live, H could go to jail and he would still win visitation in a D unless he waives his rights. I want him to waive his rights then he wouldn't ever have to pay child support and I would never deal with him again, but I am worried if I file he will start wanting to see S and it is just not a good environment for S.
4. I feel that giving him the divorce is rewarding him for being a horrible person and giving him exactly what he wants, while making me look like the "bad guy" so I don't want to give in to his manipulation.
Right now I am perfectly content not talking to H not ever seeing him and just living my life without him. My only problem right now is he has a house key which bothers me because he could come in at any time, but I can't get it back and I have no money right now to get new locks again (I changed them in April, but stupid me, I gave him a key when he moved back in, in October and never got it back.) Besides that, I could care less that I am married. I am just going to have fun. Even if I divorced, I would not date for a while because I have always been the type of person to give time between relationships to make sure I didn't hurt anyone, so in a while if someone comes along and I can save the money, I will divorce H then. Right now I am just focusing on the now because last year at this time, I would have never thought I would be in this place so I now know I never know what will happen.
Me29 S3 H left 4/1/09 I file 8/2/10 Divorce final 5/17/11 1st http://www.tinyurl.com/25lhu52 2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg 3rd http://www.tinyurl.com/322yk89
