I guess I am at this exhasperation point where I accept that it is over (OK I know its never over until divorce ink drys) but for my own selfish reasons and for the kids it would be convenient to have her around for a few more months before moving out.
Maybe not a great idea - it is ASKING her to cake-eat - but when I used the term 'open relationship' she didn't like that at all. It certainly is a sign of my detatchment from her. I have nothing left to do but give up and it is just a matter of what is the most convenient living arrangement short term.
She is ready to move out she claims, but then she backtracks to us alternately leaving which I don't want to do. I figure we get S/D going, and then if she wants to leave before D is final she can, but if she stays we can get along because I no longer care about what she does. I know I should, but I am exhausted and tired of fighting a losing battle with her over OM (which she still claims to not be doing anything wrong with -just talking).
It has sucked up way too much of my energy and I need to move on and enjoy my life. Not caring what she does, assuming M is over like she says, and generally not getting riled up about anything she does is the way to go I figure whether or not she is in the house. For some practical reasons I prefer her to be there for a few more months I guess.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
