I talked to her before about moving out and she tells me that she is planning on doing so but never gives me any specific date. I think she is stashing money away so that she can leave. I am about to force her hand a little to see what happens.
Wolverine, for what it's worth, the first step in this direction will be the scariest but the steps that follow afterward will come easier.
Don't force her hand a little, there is no "forcing a little", there is no trying, just do it.
- this is your life we're talking about, she disrespects you by attributing no value to your life, respect yourself enough to let go of the people that don't value you or the relationship they have with you - it will be one of the greatest gifts you give yourself - you will reclaim your life, your personal power and you'll be setting an example for your children so that they learn to develop the proper self-respect and self-esteem at an early age, otherwise you're just teaching them to act in a similar manner if they are ever unfortunate enough to have this happen in their lives.
When thought became action in my own situation, I imagined my children and them repeating all of this in their own lives, and them feeling powerless, lonely, unloved, hurt, depressed, etc.
It broke my heart but it strengthened my resolve to change my own life because living a great respectable life for myself would mean I would be teaching them to do the same in their own lives and that would be one of the greatest gifts I could give them.
Time for you to reclaim your self-respect and pump up that self-esteem.
