I am very glad that my H has said those words to me. And it meant so much. I needed to hear that. He said to me something along the lines of "you are a woman of honor and integrity, and she knows she could never hope to be even half the woman you are." He is now realizing part of the appeal was the whole "damsel in distress" thing and his need to be a hero. So, she was a f'ed up mess and needed a good man like my H to rescue her. I was, always have been a woman of honor and integrity, and I guess H got the sense I didn't need him much anymore. Anyway, he is looking at all that in IC for himself.
I am finding the anger is dissipating a bit today. Maybe writing that letter helped more than I realized, and I think reminding myself here about who I am as a person helped.
H4U... I am guessing your W KNOWS you are the better man, but just hasn't verbalized that. It's hard for the WAS to admit to having made such a horrible mistake, it's a hit to their pride. So, I think sometimes they hope we just "know" these things because they have chosen to stay.
The important thing is that you know it to be true about you.
