Marriage Hanging by a Thread

[TrentC]

Could anyone comment on how long I have before this becomes irreparable? (or is it already.)

I am burning so much money between counselling and investigations.

When it's irreparable is when one or the both of you decide it is. Marriages can and do recover from infidelity.

As for burning the money, how much is your marriage worth to you? That's not meant as a goad, it's an honest question. If your wife was in the hospital with a life-threatening illness, would you be debating how much money to spend helping her to get better?

This is the same thing, only it's your marriage on life support.