Access to her emails... Cellphone bills etc. Although I agree 100% with those conditions, I take this opportunity to voice my thoughts about it.
We all here realise that she or any other WAS (incl my H) can have ten different accounts, unknown to us, different phone-numbers, call from work etc, right? These are gestures of commitement, and mean alot, but the bottom line is SOME amount of trust is required anyway from us.
In the end,we have to have SOME faith they dont have a master plan to cheat on us again or that they arent so damn insecure, immature, vulnerable and weak that will go back to their lover's arms in a second, that they also felt the hurt and learnt from this mess.
That quantum of trust/solace is what you are looking for in your heart to see if you can engage in the "piercing" process of piecing. That amount of faith I am missing and tortures me like crazy. The only thing that keeps me from quiting since the pressure is just too much for me is the thought that it would be completely stupid/irrational and very hurtful to our kids if he came back after 2 years only to cheat on me again especially now that I am not naive and innocent anymore and he is being watched.
Just my 2 cents. I wish your family good luck Bill. K
