Wolverine, I'm almost scared to ask this, but it may be something worthwhile contemplating...
Is it possible that your W may have become a lesbian?
Another thing I suggest you do is re-read your entire thread.
Look at it objectively and answer the following questions:
1. Why have I continued to allow myself to be emotionally terrorized by this woman?
2. Why do I continue to allow myself to be used and abused by this woman?
3. What do I have to do to regain my manhood and self-esteem?
Disclaimer: This is a drive-by post. I have no intention on becoming further involved with your sitch. I do think you need to take some time and evaluate yourself and your behavior.