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[ClingingToHope]

I had a similar experience, just not as dramatic as yours. I spent 7 hours with W on Christmas and we just got along so well.

But the reality is that she was just being polite. That, as of now, there's nothing in her heart for me.

We talked last week and she's still ready, eager even to get a divorce. So I emotionally crashed as well.

This weekend D10 told me that W has been depressed and crying a lot over work. I've always felt that job of hers is going to kill her. She just cares so much and so wants to advance and be in charge and it just isn't happening.

I realize now that I'm too attached to the M, that it became my identity. Look at me, the perfect family man.

W is too attached to her career.

I felt better after D10 told me that. W is putting on an awful brave front when she does see me.

I know there's a long way from realizing it wasn't me that was making her unhappy to actually wanting to be married to me. Still, I feel strangely satisfied.

In your case? I don't know the hold he has on you. If you are truly ready to say it's all or nothing then why don't you file?