I'm sure you are confused and upset since you thought you were very close to working things out. All this really says is that he is still not finished with his journey. Since you've already been at this for 3 years then you know how long this MLC craziness can take. I still believe that we have to leave them totally alone for anykind of growth to happen with them. In my case I had always found something, anything that I could use as an excuse to call ex. I somehow had myself convinced that maybe hearing my voice would jar something in him. Honesly what I now believe is that all it served to do was for him to distance himself further away.
In the last 2 years I can could count on 1 hand how many times we had been in contact. The difference now was that I was divorced & had decided that for my own well being I needed to distance myself as well, and that is what brought him full circle. He was alone, I mean ALL alone. Alone to think about the past, alone to cry, alone to figure out what is important in life and to him, without any interference from me. I really wish that this was something that we were strong enough to do from the get go because I think it's the most important piece to this whole MLC puzzle. Especially when we're dealing with people as fragil as the men we married!
