But if it is beneficial to them, then I'll say something. Thanks!
IMO, what you are doing is hiding it from them. I personally don't think that is good.
From my own sitch I told D about the A and that 'married people don't have girlfriends and boyfriends'. She needs to learn that when you marry you marry and keep your vows. Marriage is special.
Hiding it doesn't let them have this lesson. It is a lesson. But telling them a reason for H leaving maybe better to them than simply telling them he left them ... their imagination will do the rest of the damage.
Actions = Consequences for EVERYBODY in the family. WAS's so often forget about that.
Just my 2p worth.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
