I was just thinking after I posted above about how OW or even MGF don't really bug me that much anymore. It really used to at the time. During exh's and OW's affair, I thought if she would just get out of the picture life would be great with exh...WRONG!

Now, I think I realize that OW can be any female in exh's life. Meaning, it wasn't really OW that was special. He didn't really love and care for her either. He didn't choose her over me. Same goes for MGF. Exh has huge issues. If it wasn't that particular OW or MGF or only the Lord knows what other women...it would have been someone else. Its not like he looked at OW when we were together and went "that is the woman of my dreams." Make sense?

I think that is how I have been able to let go of my hatred for OW like I used to have. It has nothing to do with me, OW, MGF or anyone else except Exh's warped mind.

Last edited by Startingover2; 01/11/10 07:42 PM.
Me: 46 FWS: 36
Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07
Baby Girl born 3/08
Kicked him out because OW: 7/08
5/10 He realized what he had and lost.
Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!