Hi TF- Hope your weekend was good! I do think those childhood issues play a big part in this. My H never felt loved as a child and after reading the 5 Love Languages, I can see that I was showing my love the way he needed...
Also think that things were a bit controlled, emotion-wise, at his childhood home..so H's anger is held in check until it builds up and comes out, out-of-proportion, to whatever is going on...
My mothering instincts kicked in too much too! Trying to tame those instincts all around for my teens and H has been interesting... No one wants mothering at my house except my 'whiny/meow-y' cat!
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.