He's a very weak man. From the beginning he has kept his distance (either emotionally or physically) because being accountable to Me, Kids or Friends was more than he could handle. So he ran. He stayed where it was safe with people who wouldn't question or ask the hard stuff. People who really didn't matter, so I guess he used them as well.
While I get this, I still have difficulty with why they do this...
Originally Posted By: dncrm
It's very healing to know without a doubt that there was very little that we can do to prevent this. The damage was done years before. We just happen to be in the line of fire when the shooting begins.
Amen to that!
I find your situation very interesting since I am at the crossroads right now. My H and I have been separated for almost 3 years. For the last year or two, we have been sloooowly working on reconciling...that was until I gave him a deadline of the end of the year to move back. He was making plans to and even gave notice at his apartment but on New Year's day he bailed. I told him I was moving forward with my life either with or without him. Now it looks like it is without him since he hasn't contacted me in 9 days. Part of me is really ready to move on but there is still this nagging feeling that he will come back and want to reconcile eventually. I see that you have moved on but now have to make a choice. The thought of having to make that choice frightens me but you seem to be handling it very well.
Good luck figuring out what you want to do. I know if I were you and could let go of the past, I would work things out with my H. My parents are divorced and my life would be so different if they had gotten back together...it would have been wonderful. So, for your kids it worth exploring the possiblity.
