Help w MLC / WAW... Jack 3 Beans?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

what I don't really understand is why and how people are able to get past that. I mean I feel that super strong love and attraction waning from me, and I cannot love someone who has lied and betrayed me for so long-- and basically attempted to ruin my life.

The woman your batshit carzy wife is today. Is that the woman you married?

Cause...if so...then this really does fall on your bad choice. I hope she was a demon in bed.

The reason I ask, goes alittle something like this.
If your wife currently was nothing like she was a few months or years ago...then something changed.

A moral person who suddenly become immoral. An honest person who suddenly starts lying, a person who starts betraying their core values?

Something is up and it isn't a sudden desire to be an asshat.

One of my favorite definitions of MLC is the fracturing of the mind. Some button (event) triggers the repressed memories (fears) that occured as a child. That happened because as a child they couldn't deal. The mind fractures into a mix of that child and the adult.
Insta-f-ing-crazy person.

A normally logical person, is now overwhelmed with emotion, and confusion. Let me repeat and use Caps to empathize. OVERWHELMED.

If she was doing this on purpose to you buddy, I'd say she is pure evil and that you should put her down with a stake in her heart.

Guess what she is not.

Normally I'd ask if the roles where reversed, would she stand by you, while you went off the deep end...but screw that, the MLC usually isn't built that way, in the end most wouldn't. So instead, CAN YOU? If you are an LBS more than likely you are by design or mental fortitude resistant to having a MLC.

Do not take any of the above the wrong way, it is not a 2x4 to you.

But you need to let go of the idea that she is doing all of this on purpse to hurt you. She doesn't have the ability to plan her breakfast tomorrow. She is not evil. The seeds of MLC are far from her fault, her childhood was geared toward one.

Do not underestimate her.

Your anger, use it to shield yourself from the BS, but do not use it to lash out at her.

Calling her when you are angry...not the best idea.

Snooping becomes and addiction for the LBS, and that is where you will keep hurting yourself.
The PI?
Your call, I wouldn't.
She ended it with OM. Mine said she did too, she didn't. This is one of those high percentages that makes it hard to believe. Stop talking about the OM.

If your wife was always evil, then divorce her. If this is not the case then MLC is likely, and stop talking about divorce.

You came here for a reason. You are not special, you aren't the quick fix. You are however an amazing guy going through some of the harderst crap a person can go through...and I'm telling you you can make it.

Stop reacting to bad news, with knee jerk reactions like over %50 of the rest of the population (sheep) does. Be better than that, your marraige, you and your wife (who is actually somewhere deep inside this crazy bithmonster) deserve it.

Vent here.

Stop repeating mistakes, learn, grow. Live.