I have decided to not go after W with any forcing of account separation or filing for D. I am at peace with this decision after praying and speaking with what I consider to be good Godly counsel. This doesn't mean that I am errand boy or a doormat. But I will not do anything that could come across as vindictive which is how I feel it would look.
I have trust issues that need to be rebuilt with my W and I don't think zapping her from my life would help that.
In the mean time I am becoming more focused at work and putting forth more effort to learn as much as possible while making contact with agencies and other jobs as well as keeping my resume up to date out of job sites.
The next financial discussion with W will be about how she wants to do the taxes whether it be filing jointly or single and which one will generate a bigger return.
I have also decided that I will attend D7's birthday dinner or breakfast with W and her real dad who is flying into town since I have been included in that. Actually, I have D7 for that period and W had told me her dad wants to do a meal with her and us and we need to work that in. I said that is fine. I am finding that the more I continue to treat W's family the way I would want to be treated, the more they seem to be coming around.
Today I have some work on my plate, but it doesn't appear to be as busy a day or week as last week was.
I kind of liked getting up earlier today and starting my day off at mass and am looking forward to how better schedule my evening with some extra time.
Kevin
Think about what I bolded.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
