I understand about the controlling/mothering thing. My H told me probably about a year ago now that I was controlling which I really don't see me as personality-wise, but I do think my mothering instincts kicked in too much. I have taken a completely hands off approach now, trying to not make suggestions even if he is in the kitchen looking for something to eat (like, there is leftover _______ in the fridge). It is hard.
Interestingly, my H recently was going on about how controlling his dad is/was . . . hmmmmmmm. I am seeing more and more childhood issues come up over the past few weeks.
