We didn't have any kind of relationship other than a couple letters before we got married - it felt right at the time, but I was overseas in a language course (not a marriage one!)
If I was looking for a homemaker I would be set. But, we haven't been able to connect well on the intellectual level. I don't 'regret' the M, but she views the world (and always has) in a different way than I do. So for me, part of my struggle is whether I want to make a relationship that is deep with her, or start again.
The attraction was funny - she's modest and as most of our communication was written, the pictures I had of her were when she was a few years younger and healthier. She doesn't take care of herself physically so her skinny stature (95lbs) hasn't worked for me. I guess I'm an idealist and thought it wouldn't be too much of an issue...many people's comments remind me that it shouldn't be.
I'm not looking for encouragement to go, but I guess I'm trying to hear something to "push me" over my anxiety of staying married when I have and continue to think that there is a personality divide between my her and I. I wish I could talk about our issues more to my W, but her self-esteem issues get in the way.
