Need Wise DB Help!! Joint MC session in 2 days.

[MHL]

I don't want to come out and ask "do you want to work on the M"
b/c I know she will say no it is over. That leaves me nowhere to go. I guess I want to get a discussion going about saving our marriage, or at least get her to acknowledge that with work it could be saved, but as long as she is dating it makes it a lot harder. My hopes are that her IC will chime in and support this approach. I feel like I might be going into the lion's den but I don't want to pass up the opportunity to get her into joint MC.
I am not sure what my openning line will be?
Maybe along these lines,
" The last 3 weeks have been good, I feel like we are communicating better and up until last Saturday night, I thought that the R between D13 and you (my W) was getting better", "How do you feel about that?" then shut up???