Oops! I must have happened onto the wrong thread! Butterflymom very successfully cuddled, coddled, loved and had sex with her H all through his affair. And they are reconciled. I guess I didn't cuddle mine back into my life. I took stronger sexual measures. But I outcompeted other woman in the bedroom and my H is now quite happy to be married to me. There are other examples. i think the old adage that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar is a good one.
