Calling out the Piecers

[Puppy Dog Tails]

How about "my bride"? Won't she always be that?

I always liked that term.

Puppy

[dday101798]

That'd be nice pup, seems a bit extreme at the moment tho in the spirit of not rushing into things.

At the same time, she is playing heavily on our anniversary. She always would call/text at 10:17 am and pm, or stop whatever we were doing to say "happy anniversary". She's a little quirky like that. I used to find it annoying sometimes. Then when 2 anniversaries came and went, well the second and later doesn't really count since we are divorced and I started to completely disinvolve anything to do with 10:17 in my life.

But it never failed, every time out of the only time I'd look at the clock, it would be 10:17. It's like it a haunting of sorts. When we leave for late night dates, the time we get in the truck is always..... 10:17. The last time we were out to dinner on Monday, when we were leeaving the reseraunt, we looked to see what time it was.........10:17.

She now has returned to texting random little messages at none other than 10:17, and I couldn't be more delighted to see them, once again.

I had said all along, I'd never re-marry. Guess I should have been more specific, just not to anyone else.

[dday101798]

I hate when such a wonderful weekend has to come to end.

Did the best of both worlds. Helped get my cousin's son all loaded together Friday night. (x)W was upset that I couldn't make it out to karoake with her and some friends. Until I showed up by surprise. We ahd a great time. One of her friends took some awasome pictures of us singing 'our song' that was written up on the play list as Mr. & Mrs., it was awsome. I hope her friend can upload them to me soon in the alt universe.

Then Satruday, had some issues. I came to find out that (x)W's friends son who's coming up on 16 is smoking. I've noticed S12 making odd comments about smoking lately and nosooner did I start to ponder the question with him, I could tell he has in fact been sneaking around and doing so. Ahh, the joys of parenthood. So, I made S12 come with me and holp move some more during the afternoon then retuned to (x)W's in the evening.

Yesterday we FINALLY all went to church for the first time in over 2 years. It felt so good to go. The pastor was in his glory to see us all there. Oddly, the message of the service is about takling the new year and overcoming trials and temptations. They also have an adult study on Friday night, and the subject: cheating . Everytime the pastor made reference to it, I caught him glancing to (x)W, eek. It was great tho.

Then we went to the cemetary to visit MIL's site. Unfortuantely in a foot of snow and single digit temps we couldn't locate her.

Went back to (x)W's and cleaned for the rest of the day. Her kitchen was in such disarray. Low and behold her father was in the garage for the bulk of the day. S11 spent a bit of time out there with him 'helping'. I guess FIL is just working this all back in at his own pace and isn't ready yet to deal with me directly, but is happy for (x)W and I and was ok that I was there.

(x)W has told me time and time again not to worry, that this is how he's handling it, it's fine. Apparently not too long ago, FIL 'freaked out' on (x)W, I'd presume after the night that I took the boys out for dinner and ended up sitting a few tables away from him and his GF came over by us exchanged pleasentries on his behalf. Anyway, (x)W says he pretty much pinned her in a corner and barked her out pretty good about 'losing and frocing himself to hate a son all because of her mess', and to get her head out of a_ _ , something to that extent.

(x)W and from that point on had some pretty hearty conversations. The goal IS, no matter it be an apartment, our house, a new hosue, whatever, by July we will be living together again as a family, one way or another. We didn't address it, but it also seems rather apparent that we will not live out our lives divorced either. Heh, when we were out Friday night, shen introduced me to her newer friends I hadn't met as her H. She also has been going through what's left of our stuff at our hose and decked her room out with pictures and trinkets I had gotten her over the years. She even found a wooden heart that MIL had gotten us shortly after our wedding that has our names on it and had it out.

The kids couldn't be happier. Yesterday morning S12 woke up and laid with us for a bit. Then yesterday afternoon I was feeling a bit worn out after fixing her dishwasher and got a rare treat from (x)W, she was sitting down and rested my head on her thigh as she stroked my hair until I dosed of for a bit. We hadn't done that since I think we moved out of our first house back in '04 I had no choice but to comment to that extent, and she was thinking the same thing. LOL, but apparently S11 has been getting that treatment and laid down next (x)W and jokingly gave her a hard time.

And this may be a leap and bound, but when dicussing potential places to live. We both left open the notion to find a place large enough to accomodate the possiblity of a 'new addition' to the family. We both teared up thinking of how cute and what a tomboy our D would be right now. And that we're not getting any younger.

Suffice it to say, I slept VERY good last night, well, all weekend, but REALLY good last night.

On issues, not one call I know of from OM. She is unloading that god forsaken house they 'bought' and severing that tie. I also did ask if she had been checked after all this and she said of course and is willing to prove.

This is going so well. I know I'm going to get a lashing from my cousin for being gone the majority of the weekend, but hey, I did as she asked and moved her son, and am taking Wednesday off to do the final walk through of his place and help clean the carpets. She going to have to get used to it adn start to believe, this IS the real deal. (x)W is back and here to stay.

[Goodfight]

I'm so happy that you had a great weekend! Everything is falling right into place for you.

[dday101798]

I'm so happy that you had a great weekend! Everything is falling right into place for you.

Thanks GF. Yeah, things are looking really, really, really good.

[RonD]

Glad to hear things are going so well for you! Wishing you all the best this coming year!

[dday101798]

Thanks Ron, right back at ya! The funny part is, W and I have the same attitude and approach to this. This is a new year, a new decade and a new beginning. The old stays were it is at, old news. Just eyes forward and pedal to the metal.

[RonD]

I hear ya. That's where we're at; fresh start and new attitudes. Her folks aren't too happy about it, but I ain't marrying them!

[dday101798]

Her folks aren't too happy about it, but I ain't marrying them!

Uggh, good luck with that. At least I can finally relax in the knowing that (x)FIL was/is still my corner an djust needs time, like we all do, to adjust to all this. Really sets my mind at ease. My family on the other hand, well, are just going to have learn to trust my gutt instincts and believe when I say, I know when W is b/s-ing me. This new start is setting for smooth sailing and we know the things we want to do differently this time around. That's all we take from the past besides the connection we felt from day one.

This time is going to be better, stronger, and more focused.

Nothing to really update. Went 'home' and put my laundry away. It felt so ackward driving back there and almost teared up and the voices in my head were screaming, this isn't the way 'home', home is where W is!

Only talked to W for a few minutes on the phone as we were both wore out from a long enjoyable weekend. We shared a few messages this morning, lol, her first jokingly fussing at me becasue she forgot to reset her alarm clock from the 'earlier' time I needed to get up yesterday.

Rats, I already can't stand being away from her.

[mishka422]

So glad things are going well Dylan! What a long way you have come in such a short time. Keep that ball rolling!