Need Wise DB Help!! Joint MC session in 2 days.

[TrentC]

At the time of the session I did not know she was lying. She was very convincing she said, to me "I am your wife, you are my husband , we are still married" that was the phase for her on the M where she said "If I had to make a decision today its over but lets put in God's hands". I found out about #2 A on Oct. 30. As far as her beliefs go she used to be a strong christian woman, now she is doing whatever makes her happy with no regard to anyone else. Super selfish.

Then bring it up during counselling.

Say "You told me this, it turned out to be a lie. If we're going to work this out, I need to be able to trust you."

I would like to say to her that don't you think you have a better chance of finding true happiness with me or at least trying with me then trying to find someone else out there with as much baggage as you have at this point in life (age 42), what do you have to lose. I don't want to guilt her into anything.

But that's exactly what you're doing. You can't make her see reason right now because she won't. She's running on her feelings.