I think your choices are still the same:
1) stand for your marriage
2) file

What is your choice? If you are standing, then, IMO, you hang in. You can try and set a boundary, perhaps, by telling her that if she intends to move back, you both must enroll in Retrouvaille, but, she may see that as controlling.

If #1, how long are you willing to wait?

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;