NO certainly I don't want any of that, it is that I have trusted him for 18 years, this behavior of his is common, he did this same exact thing to his 1st wife, the same exact way, I tried telling him that and he said no, but it is cause I was the other woman...

But why am I needy, and desperate, that makes me sound so cheap and I am not, and certainly I don't approve of this behavior..but my question is what drew him to do something like this?

I did not see any signs that I was aware of. This was like an all of asudden thing.

An NO that is not what I want out of my life, I want to be happy, thin and I want him to hurt as much as I am right now, is that wrong

OMG you are so correct..I actually think if I can go without talking to him except for finances that I will be a better person and show him that I dont need him you are so RIGHT...I texted him this morning to have a good day, guess I should not of done that....thank you so much for letting me see...I hope I can do this...I am not desperate, god how cheap does that make me feel