That is pretty weird, Mandy! Do you donate the clothes to charities? Maybe, he feels there's a part of him still with his son --- old, used, shabby, part of him???
I know my son wouldn't want any of his dad's old clothes (unless it's leather), so that is odd.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
snodderley and beingme thanks for popping in, what I forgot to add is the fact that these are some of the clothes he bought when he first left, I remember seeing him in some of them, they were his young trendy clothes for his new woman, definately not the sort of clothes ex would wear, maybe he has realised wot a prat he looked in them, lol
Mandy, Maybe you are right! Maybe he's come to realize that he's not a teenager any longer and now thinks he looked like the horse's butt in them. Maybe he's growing up a bit? I do find it very, very strange...but they all do strange things.
How are you and your son doing? You sound very great!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
snodderley thanks for asking we are fine love thankyou, it as been a long hard road, but now I realise nothing is going to change with ex and myself, we talk we are amicable and that is all, son is now having a relationship with his dad and as recently took the plunge to go to have tea with dad and the ho, apart from that we are happy, have our own little lives and have moved on in leaps and bounds, where all of a sudden ex became an outsider, but I have to say I still have my moments and I still have my laughs at the things he does, just like the business with the clothes, but not to worry he isnt my fruitcake anymore and never will be, hope you are good too snodderley x
Hey! I hear you! I feel the same way about my little loony tune...not my problem any more either!
Yes, we can now sit back and laugh at the antics...so much better than at the beginning.
Hugs to you and your son. Take care!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
ML, How did you feel about S going to have tea w/X and OW?
You didn't mention.
You say not your problem but I catch some sense of you, like me, hoping that perhaps at some point X will wake up? I sense something that we have in common is that X's have not expressed regret or looked back; this makes closure difficult because we do wonder what on earth happened...and your situation struck me as particularly painful because he also rejected your S for such a long time.
Clothes--sounds like guilt to me.
But you are doing well to stay out of it and hope that S is able to have a better R w/X.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Forward, on the how did I feel when son went for tea with x and wifey in a word I was gutted, but then I had to stop myself and think that son is 15 years old now and if this is his choice so be it, I think that if he does go for tea that he will probably see more of his dad, because as I have said in the past x can only see son when wifey allows, I will try and not let it bother me, yes you are right I would love ex to wake up, but I cant see that happening either. too long, too much water under the bridge etc, yes I do still care about x but that is all. x
mmmmmmmm we have so much snow here in the uk at the moment maybe ex gave son his old clothing so he could dress a snowman up, on another note, nobody has heard from ex since the above happened, neither son or I and neither his old aunt, he went and picked her off the floor 1st january, an 84 years old disabled person, housebound and he hasnt even contacted her to see if she as food or is warm or anything, and the weather is really poor in the uk at the moment it is a time when he should be checking on his only relatives, but no he appears to have run back into his hole, oh dear but nevermind
ooops out hes popped again, he contacted auntie yesterday to ask if she was alright, didnt offer to do anything for her but at leasted he checked on her now the snow as gone. also he contacted son and invited him for tea yesterday, if you remember he asked if he could come to the next parents day at school, it will be sons last one before employment, I told him it was tomorrow, he as phoned to confirm it is still on and even offered to call and give me a lift to the school, maybe I havent done the right thing but due to the fact that he hasnt offered me a lift in 5 years, and the fact that he couldnt come in my home to see son at xmas, I declined the lift, not is those two last statements the only reason, i think he as only offered to save himself face and not looking forward to turning up to school on his own facing the teachers hes never met, oh well my choice my decision, i do not need him and i do not need a lift, "jog on knob head" is my new saying, lol
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
