Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[Gnosis]

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THIS:

In the past I didn't acknowledge the stress and pain she was in because of my deployments, and I think that contributed as well.

Is BS because of:

Ok, this is strange, but she ALWAYS re-assured me that we would be STRONGER after the deployments, that we would re-connect, and our marriage would be better.

You don't want to know what I thought when I read THAT ^ ^ ^ ^

Remember this: "Anything you say can and will be used against you"? The above my friend is a perfect example - and it works both ways.

My issues with my W were that we had trust issues due to her past lying and deceit.

The problem with habitual liars is that they end up believing their own lies. Your W has been lying her entire life, to you, to the kids, to everyone around her and to herself.

With that in mind, how do you think this will change in the future?

She has destroyed your trust in her. The onus lies on her to do the work to rebuild it. Until she indicates that she wants to reconcile (AND BACKS IT UP WITH ACTION) your job is to continue your life without her in the picture. I told you before, the only two things that matter at this point in your life are YOU and your kids. What she does/n't do, says or doesn't say... don't matter until she positively affirms a complete change in mindset.

If she is salvageable, when you get back and start on your new path in life without her, she may do an about-turn and start pursuing the new you. If that happens, you're going to make her work for it. Until then, you live life to the maximum.