Then it seems to me your path is clear.

He wasn't going to change before things got into a crisis, and he seems unlikely to change now.

You need to do what you can to get him out of your life. People who try to game the system, dodge process servers or fly under the radar are not people you want to trust to raise your kids.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."