Update from this morning. I spoke to W and told her that she and I had been on our last trip together. I told her we would not be going on S's birthday trip and that this was a consequence of her filing for D, which was her decision to break up the family. I told her filing for D and going on "family" vacations were mutually exclusive items. You can't do both.
I also explained that we did not have the money, and especially didn't now since she filed. That I would have to take money from the family budget to retain an attorney.
Of course, she got angry (as I expected she would) and I was the bad guy. I was being unreasonable/selfish for not laying aside my interests and thinking of the childrens' best interests (b/c, of course, people stay friends all the time even after D), that her filing the D action was merely a reaction to our "relationship."
I explained that the decision not to go had nothing to do with not keeping the childrens' interests at heart. I said people who are D'ing do not vacation together.
I also asked her if she really thought I would (a) go on vacation with her and (b) stay at her parents. All she said in response was that her parents had been "gracious" enough to offer to let us stay at their place. Huh?
I know what she is saying is simply her way of justifying her position that is simply unjustifiable. I have no doubt she truly believes her statements. That, however, does not make them right or defensible.
