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[gettingthere]

I had the kids to stay with me on Saturday . My wife had some
friends round . I needed to get some more bedding (my internal intention was to check up on her ! not good) . Spoke nicely to her friends she was friendly and left without staying too long.
Kids have been telling me that om has come around everynight but leaves before they go to bed. They also said mummy told us not to tell you.

I phoned her next day to say i was going to take the kids for a meal and did she want to come. She said "yes that would be nice) .
I went round and the kids watched telly while i helped change the beds tidied up , put stuff away, tried and failed to disipline the boy (he ignored me and he was upset and said something to my wife which i didn't hear.)

Wife made a point of not sitting opposite or beside me for the meal. I was chatty and friendly , not just to her but the staff etc.
Went back and the wife was called on her mobile and she hung up twice , she said it was her friend but she didn't want to speak to her...odd !?!?
She began talking about her workfriend who had a place that i could maybe rent and whether she should ask for me.
I said no because that would sound weak that i need her to find me somewhere to live. I need to find my assertivness more !