Single parents make it work. Babysitters, neighbors, friends.
Consider the difference between getting/paying for help versus going back on an agreement. And the effect it would have on future gigs. And what it says to the kids.
I googled 'getting past your past' based on the advice of a friend. Found some interesting sites that brought head banger perspectives.
I do my best as a parent. I'm learning sometimes the best is NOT doing everything.