So, I'm moving in four days!!! And I had to juggle several family members and travel plans to get it all worked out. LOL. It's crazy! My cousin from Phoenix (who I'm not sure I've ever met)is flying to Denver so I can meet up with her and drive back to AZ. That morning I will spend with my H's grandparents in Denver before picking her up. I know it doesn't sound so complicated now, but it took several hours and multiple phone calls to work out. The good news is I don't have to make the drive alone.
It was very cool of her to volunteer, and I am not listening to what the other family members are saying about this particular cousin. Several of my favorite family members find her self-centered and/or obnoxious. But I think she deserves a fair chance. But I won't assume she's a great person; I'll let her show me.
H called me tonight...just because! This is one of the things I listed as a baby step toward me when initially setting my goals for what I want. It makes me so happy. I know we have a l-o-n-g way to go, but it was a step. We talked about my travel plans and then about his work. I didn't get into trivial this and that...didn't even tell him much about the kids. If he wants to know what's going on then he'll have to ask. And then I told him I was going to bed, goodnight. He seemed really surprised, like he expected me to just sit and talk to him indefinitely.
And I'm also furious/disappointed. I will get to my new house on the 15th or 16th. On the 31st he will go to a 2 week school in Texas! I know, I know; life isn't fair. But seriously?!! When do the separations end? I'd even take a few months with him! Some days I hate the Army. But the upside is that this is a no contact school. For the duration he cannot have any contact with the outside world. Granted this means no calling me "just because" but he also can't call the OW. Maybe I'm getting too much satisfaction out of that...
Anybody think that perhaps while he's away at school would be a good time to tell her I'm married? I still feel like a coward for waiting until after the move. But I'll live. She has a right to know if she doesn't already. And if she does, well then she's going to know I'm well-informed and that this isn't some little secret between the two of them.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
