W has completely shut down re: the assault. She claims to have forgiven me, but refuses to meet face to face to talk about it. I feel this would be healing for us both, but no go.

Would it be too manipulative to make this a condition of the D?

Last edited by TooLateForMe; 01/11/10 06:03 AM.
~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)