A cheated cheater

[bluerain]

Hi undefeated, thats all pretty exciting news! I think that one of the biggest things that I would say to your question about telling him about the things that you have realized since you have gotten your Bipolar under control is this: Dont tell him anything. Show him, he will notice the changes that you have made in the ways that you interact with him, your kids, even the new people that you will be meeting. You can tell him anything and he might hear it, but the things that he sees will have more of an impact.

You do have the fact that shes on the other side of the continent on your side here. And hopefully shes not stupid enough and has too much self respect to let herself get pregnant by a married man who lives in another state.

I think that its smart to plan to step away from the issues of other people right now. I also think that it would be nice if you could find a way to not internalize other peoples problems. This is going to come up again, and it would be good for you to figure out how to shed their negative energy. Maybe pray for the people (and it doesnt have to be to a particular "god"), maybe meditation would be a more accurate term, but focus on hoping for the best in their situations and then let them go. You stewing on someone elses issues isnt going to do anyone any good. And often its important to remember that usually people dont want help solving their problems, they just need to say them out loud.

So, get your hair cut, buy new makeup, and new big girl undies, sexy ones that make you feel great, and focus on you and what you need to be the best undefeated that you can be!