Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

I have admitted to my mistakes, to her and to the board.

My issues with my W were that we had trust issues due to her past lying and deceit.

We NEVER got help for that, rather, we just swept it under the rug. I think that enabled her to continue with this type of behavior and maybe ENCOURAGED it, by me not taking any action-classic doormat.

I make no excuses for my W's behavior. I just wish I understood it.